A gift they don’t have to cook, clean, or think about
There’s something about losing a parent that turns everything upside down. And when someone you care about is going through that kind of loss, you want to show up in a way that actually helps. Not just with words, or with flowers that are just going to wilt, but with genuine comfort.
When my friend Emily lost her dad, I could tell she was running on fumes. Between the travel, the arrangements, and trying to be strong for her mom, she wasn’t sleeping…let alone thinking about eating. And while I knew I couldn’t take the pain away, I wanted to send her something that would bring comfort and a gentle reminder that I’m thinking of her.
That’s when I thought of Boarderie.
I’d ordered one of their charcuterie boards last year for a holiday dinner, and I remembered how beautiful—and easy—it was. Everything came fresh, pre-arranged, and chilled. All Emily would have to do was open the box and set it out. No cooking, no decisions. Just comforting little bites full of aged cheeses, artisan meats, crackers, dried fruits, and chocolates.
So I sent it to her mom’s house, where the family was gathering.
Later, she texted me:
“This was exactly what we didn’t know we needed. We just sat together, snacked, and shared stories about my dad the whole evening. Thank you.”
It wasn’t a grand gesture by any means. But it gave them a few minutes to breathe, sit, and feel taken care of, without having to think about preparing anything or making any more decisions.
When someone you love is grieving, there’s no right thing to say. But sometimes, even the smallest act of care can help them feel loved and supported in the moment that they need it most.